One random act of kindness a day.

I have a friend called Mary. She lives in Oakland and I have never met her in real life. But in small and rather miraculous ways we try to bring out the best in each other and help work out our fears, limitations, and show each other the things that are hardest to see in ourselves.

We live in a world where it has become easier to file an FIR than it is to give a stranger a compliment. It is easier to complain, whine and find what’s wrong with the system, rather than acknowledge that we are part of the problem and probably part of the solution. Today, we give and take offence easier than we do a smile. And so, Mary and I decided that each day, every day we would perform one good deed or a random act of kindness that would, in some tiny way, put back into the Universe all the good it gave out freely.

As the days passed and I tried to keep my promise best I could, I began to notice things change. Strangers began to stop and ask if I needed a lift anywhere. On the road, drivers gave way. In the canteen, an unknown man whose lunch I’d paid for last week stepped up to buy me lunch on a day I had no appetite and no company. A lady at the store decided to let me have the last yoga mat (she probably decided I needed the exercise more than she did).

So what changed? The world didn’t change in 2 weeks. I was changing. Rather, the way I saw things was changing. I hate to flog a dying cliché, but the Mahatma was right about being the change you see etc. etc. And now armed with this new, and perhaps insignificant understanding of the world, these are some of the things I have learned:

1. If you’re thinking well of someone, tell them. If you’re not, shut up.
2. If you’re eating something sitting next to stranger, offer them some.
3. Older people, pregnant women, and children come first.
4. Don’t take anything personally because it is not always about you. Honestly. People do what they do because of themselves, not you.
5. If you want something, give it.
6. Be kind. Be kind. Be kind. Even when they’re not. And especially when they’re not.

One random act of kindness is all it took. Thank you, Mary.


4 Comments Add yours

  1. Your writing is always breathtaking.
    I keep complaining about things every day. I see that people and things around me can’t meet my expectation.
    But it is such a great chance for me to drop by to your blog. It is not a coincidence. It is probably how God shows me the way to be thankful, to change my point of view about things around me. Thank you!


  2. Robyn says:

    This knowledge came to me many years ago whilst hospitalized trying to recover from being hit by a drunken driver. OOOhh I was a bitter and sorryass little thing in those days. The woman who shared my room was dying, but every day she made a point of being nice and kind to one or another of us and as a result our room became one of the happier places in a sad ward. She stays with me every day as I tell some sad looking lady her hair looks great or WOW over some kid’s new shoes. It brings me such joy to carry her legacy forwards and my heart is dancing knowing that you and Mary are now passing out the kindnesses every day too! Hugs to you both.


  3. nishi01 says:

    Fantastic post.


  4. T says:

    Man, I think I’m in love with you. Not really. But maybe 🙂 . But I do wish I knew you.


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