STOP RIGHT THERE

Don’t call, email, text or visit your ex in a moment of weakness: Even though you brought on the breakup, there may still be times when you miss your ex. A song might come on the radio that reminds you of them. Something funny will happen and you’ll want to share it. Or maybe you’re just having a bad day and want to reach out and reconnect.

STOP RIGHT THERE.

Missing your ex is one thing. Contacting your ex is a no-no. In fact, reconnecting with your ex is the absolute worst thing you can do right now. So before you have that moment of weakness, remove your ex’s number from your cell phone, delete their email address, and take them off your social networking contacts. (Right now.)

Don’t second-guess your decision: After a breakup, it’s all too easy to second-guess yourself and your choices. Did I do the right thing? Should I have given him/her another chance? Maybe there was more I could do to make it work… The truth is, you can make yourself crazy second-guessing your decision. But what’s done is done. You had your reasons, made your decision, and now it’s time to accept and move on.

See your breakup for what it really is: You may not know it right now, but in ending your relationship with the wrong person, you’re paving the way to meet the right one. By walking away from that wrong relationship, you’re headed towards a life that’s more honest and authentic for you. What better way to eventually attract your perfect partner than by living and loving your own life?